In Female Orgasm Secrets, you will discover how to make a
woman orgasm more powerfully than ever before.
Simply click the Play Button to the right and discover the secrets of taking a
woman to orgasmic bliss!
Simply click the Play Button to the right and discover the secrets of taking a woman to orgasmic bliss!
And Here's A Bit Of Fun - How To Fake An Orgasm Video - "Advice" For Women
We know why so few women come
Believe it or not, about 10% of all women have never had an orgasm during either masturbation or intercourse - an amazing statistic.
But happily, it is possible for a woman to learn how to have orgasms, and for a man to learn how to give a woman an orgasm. And that is what this website is all about.
Orgasms Are Needed For Good Health!
If you're a man, and you want to know how to give intense orgasmic pleasure to a woman, please just watch the female ejaculation video at the top of the right hand column.
If you're a woman, and you don't know how to have an orgasm, read on below.
The first step is to understand exactly how the female body behaves on the way to orgasm.
You see, there's a blend of tension and relaxation during sexual arousal for a woman, and this blend helps her to achieve an orgasm.
You often read that an orgasm releases lost of bodily tension which builds up during sexual arousal.
That's true, but a woman also needs to know how to balance muscular tension with adequate relaxation.
And sometimes the relaxation is more about her mental attitude than her physical state.
For Squirting Orgasm Videos With Female
Ejaculation, See The Right Hand Column Of This Page!
Step 1: Tense Up
It's a mistake to think that you should just lie there whilst your partner (or you yourself) plays with your clitoris until you reach a natural climax!
In fact, if you are pre-orgasmic you may find that a fair amount of tension in the muscles of your legs, abdomen and even your buttocks can help you to come more quickly.
It's also true that tensing the muscles of your lower pelvis and around your genitals can help give you an orgasm.
These are the muscles that you'd use to stop the
flow of urine as you are peeing, and conscious, deliberate contraction
of those muscles - Kegel exercises - can strengthen the muscles of the bladder,
pelvis and vagina.
Video About Kegel Exercises
The connection between tension in these muscles and reaching orgasm is as follows: tensing these muscles increases your sexual arousal by stimulating the genitals, both with extra blood flow and with the muscular tension itself.
Many women who masturbate by squeezing their thighs together find later in life that they are so conditioned to this method of reaching orgasm that they cannot do so in any other way! (Although you can always learn how to come quickly in other ways. By asking your man to learn how to give you an orgasm, perhaps!)
Step 2: Relax
To be fully able to get to orgasm, a woman needs to be relaxed, confident and happy that she's safe, with a partner who she desires and loves, and with whom she really wants to have sex.
She may also need to feel emotionally connected to him.
One of the best things that a man can offer a woman when he is trying to give a woman an orgasm is the reassurance that she can lie back, relax, and enjoy his attention free of anxiety, while he gives her the space in which she can relax into her orgasm mentally.
A woman can also repeat positive affirmations such as, "I can take all the time I want and I will have a powerful orgasm. And if I don't it doesn't matter because I can just relax and enjoy all the sensations."
This kind of positive self-talk can be very helpful in reassuring a woman that she's actually in a place where she can take the time and relax enough to fully enter into her sexual pleasure.
She can also visualize images such as this: for example, lying in a field in the sunshine with the sensuous sunny warmth streaming over her body and stimulating her clitoris and breasts.
Each woman can experiment with visualization and see what arouses her most.
There's no doubt that fantasy can be really helpful in increasing a woman's arousal sufficiently for her to reach orgasm more easily.
Having said that, the disadvantage of fantasy is that it takes a woman away from her partner and also from the connection with him.
So, in summary therefore, the method is to tense the muscles in your body in a way that makes you feel more aroused while you simultaneously relax your mind and become open to the possibility of moving into orgasm.
For many women the barrier is a point just before orgasm where instead of relaxing into the orgasm and letting it flow through them, they tense up and stop it happening. This is the experience a woman may often have: to be on the verge of orgasm and then to feel it slip away from her.
What if you really can't reach orgasm despite all the advice on this website?
Start by seeing a doctor, in case you are on medication that is interfering with your orgasmic response.
Also, there is an FDA approved device called an Eros which increases blood flow to the genitals - but it's only available on prescription. However, it can certainly help some women to get an orgasm.
There is also a variety of creams, lotions and potions on the Internet, offered by websites of greater or lesser honesty. Whether you try these are not is entirely up to you but exercise a great deal of caution. If these compounds are made in overseas factories, the conditions may be far from hygienic.
And even assuming that they are made in decent conditions, there is no way of knowing if the active ingredients claimed on the label are actually in the product or whether they work or not.
The fact is that over 90% of the difficulties women have in learning how to have an orgasm stem from psychological issues, which is fantastic because it means that you can learn to be orgasmic comparatively easily.
Consider the following questions if you are anorgasmic:
What is there about your relationship that's stopping you from achieving orgasm?
Do you have some kind of performance anxiety?
Do you feel that you're not good enough?
Or is it a much more fundamental issue that you don't really want to be having sex with that particular person?
Spend a little time thinking about all these issues and you may well come up with some surprising answers that help you to establish just why you're having trouble coming (also known as "cumming") during sex.
If you're anxious or stressed or you feel any time pressure while you're having sex with your partner, you may not experience an orgasm very easily.
Such things as time pressure and anxiety distance you from your sexual arousal and inhibit the development of the relaxed state of mind that's necessary for an orgasm -- and may make you feel tense in your body. In particular, you can't achieve the mental relaxation that is necessary for you to enjoy opening out into orgasm.
Self-talk which is critical definitely will prevent you from reaching orgasm.
This includes questions that you address yourself such as "Am I doing this right? Am I going to have an orgasm? What does he think of my body?"
To overcome this level of self-consciousness takes sexual confidence and experience, plus a reasonable level of self-esteem.
So, if this kind of issue is affecting you, you might want to try some kind of psychotherapy at a more general level to help you feel better about yourself.
Having said that, many women grow into their sexual selves and become much more confident sexually as they get more experience: the question is whether or not you want to wait for that to happen naturally or to speed up the process by getting some kind of therapeutic input. And I'm not talking about watching some female ejaculation video or other on the internet!
A good place to start is with the information on how to have an orgasm on this website, since all the material we have is exactly what you'd get from a therapist.
Finally make sure you can ask your partner for what you want. Men have a straightforward response to sexual stimulation - they are aroused, they get an orgasm easily (usually*), they feel good and then sleep........
Yes, of course I'm exaggerating slightly, but you probably know what I mean! A woman's orgasmic response is much more susceptible to disruption than a man's, and he may not understand this while trying to give his partner an orgasm. You can read about the key to mutual satisfaction here.
Unfortunately, it is often challenging for a man to move from his own frame of reference about achieving orgasm into his partner's, so tact, diplomacy, and open and honest communication are essential.
*Cases of delayed ejaculation are the exception.
Here are some interesting facts concerning the female orgasm:
1 Almost all women require clitoral stimulation before they have an orgasm.
It's true that many women find vaginal stimulation to be arousing and very pleasant, but I think most women also require clitoral stimulation to tip them over into the actual experience of orgasm.
This is true whether or not they rub their clitorises directly with hand or finger or a sex toy or they use friction against a pillow or some other object.
2 A man may be able to give a woman an orgasm during intercourse if he first arouses her right to the edge of orgasm before he enters her and then continues stimulating her clitoris as they make love. This way, she may have an orgasm as he enjoys thrusting in her vagina.
The truth is, of course, that as soon as she starts to orgasm he's likely to ejaculate immediately because it's an extremely powerful and exciting experience for him.
There's nothing wrong with this, but it can mean that he loses the ability or desire to develop greater ejaculatory control, and this in turn may deprive her of a significant amount of sexual pleasure derived from the friction of his penis on her G spot.
3 Between a third and a half of women say they don't orgasm often enough or they are not satisfied with the quality of their orgasm.
Most of these problems are caused by "performance anxiety", about not achieving the right balance between physical tension, sexual arousal, and mental relaxation and openness.
4 A whopping 33 to 50% of women experience orgasm infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm.
5 Apparently between 10 and 15% of American women have never had an orgasm either during masturbation or with a sex partner.
This seems incredible, in what's supposed to be an enlightened era of sexual knowledge. I'm not sure I believe it, but clearly a significant number of women don't enjoy regular orgasm.
It's up to every woman to take charge of her sexual destiny and make sure that she can get as many orgasms as she wishes. A supportive partner can be very helpful here if he knows how to give a woman an orgasm.
However, becoming fully orgasmic is often a process of self-discovery on a much wider front, and all the tools and techniques you need to do this are described in detail on this website.
More to the point, learning to reach orgasm can be great fun - it's a wonderful journey when you discover your body's potential for pleasure and is really enjoyable - particularly if you've experienced shame around issues of sexuality in the past.
6 The main reasons women cannot achieve orgasm include ignorance about their own bodies and sexuality, and fear or anxiety around sex, guilt around sex, and, last but not least, fear of letting go.
There hasn't been much scientific research done on the concept of clitoral versus vaginal orgasm.
Recent reports have suggested that the G spot is definitely an area of tissue distinct from the majority of the vaginal wall; and also that the G spot does not in fact exist at all!
Yet there are hundreds of thousands of women who are squirting away all the time - you can read about their experiences all over the net. And their men are having the wildest time because they know how to take a woman to orgasm.
These women know it isn't urine they ejaculate, and they know how intensely pleasurable a squirting orgasm is. In fact, it's wonderful! And very natural.
And men absolutely love it.
Women are anatomically equipped with the same sexual organs, nervous system, and potential sexual responsiveness. But not all reach orgasm as easily.
In fact, women reach orgasm much less easily than men. And we can state with absolute certainty that the number of women who achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse is very small - around 1 in 8. With additional clitoral stimulation, from fingers or vibrator, this goes up to around half.
We know why so few women comeduring intercourse: because the clitoris does not receive much stimulation when a man penetrates a woman and thrusts into her.
So unless a man knows how to make a woman come, is aware how to give a woman an orgasm, she's not likely to experience an orgasm during intercourse.
Which brings us on to the next question - how many women can achieve female ejaculation? If you watch the female ejaculation videos on the internet, you might think it was very common... but the answer's not easy to find. However, let's say a substantial minority (reference).
Aside from the plethora of female ejaculation videos on the internet, the point is, ALL women CAN ejaculate - they just need the technique. And the confidence. And the support of their partner. That's what the video above will give you - and her.
What If A Man Can't Give A Woman An Orgasm?
Some couples overcome this difficulty by providing extra stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse, and that's a very satisfactory route for a couple to enjoy the pleasure of orgasm while the man is still inside the woman.
The woman who thinks she is unable to orgasm simply because she cannot have an orgasm during sexual intercourse is being misled by either a patriarchal perception of female sexuality, or by her faulty beliefs.
In fact there's nothing unusual about not reaching orgasm during intercourse -- in fact it's the usual outcome for women. Only 15% of women or fewer come to climax during intercourse form thrusting alone.
So how is it then, that some women claim to be able to reach orgasm during intercourse on a regular basis?
The first and obvious answer is that they use additional clitoral stimulation.
The second possibility is that they find a position for sexual intercourse where the thrusting of the male partner pulls on the clitoris -- this is likely to happen, or at least more likely to happen, if a woman has long labia. Or if her clitoris is nearer her vagina than on average.
And the third possibility is that they climax through vaginal thrusting because the man's penis is stimulating the woman's G spot.
I believe the G spot actually exists. It's true there are plenty of women who deny they have a G spot.
But it's also true that there are plenty of women who have gone through a process of awakening their G spot and becoming sexually sensitive in this area. You can read about them here.
And in truth, the man who wants to give his woman an orgasm need not know anything about the G spot if he doesn't wish to find out about it, for the clitoris alone is a powerful route to sexual pleasure for a woman....
Deborah Sundahl, who more than anybody else has explored the nature and possibility of G spot orgasm in her books, has written eloquently of the nature of G spot orgasm.
It seems that when a woman is truly open at all levels to her sexual partner her mind and body behave in a different way.
Deborah has explained how the innervation of the area of the G spot is different to the innervation of the clitoris. This supports the possibility of G spot orgasm being something different to the clitoral orgasm.
And if stimulating the G spot does indeed stimulate different nerves, then it's likely that a G spot orgasm, or at having an orgasm in which G spot stimulation is involved, is going to be a different experience to an orgasm achieved by stimulation of the clitoris alone.
A lot of people believe the G spot needs to be "sensitized" before a woman becomes sexually responsive to G spot stimulation.
I've heard many, many stories of women who have learned, through taking Tantric sex courses, or through the loving attention of a partner with whom they felt completely safe, that G spot sensitivity can increase over time.
But what does increasing the sensitivity of the G spot actually mean?
It means something like becoming more aware of it as a source of sexual pleasure, and it might even mean training the nerves and tissues of the area to become sexually responsive to stimulation of the right kind.
This is clearly where a woman's partner has a role to play in giving a woman an orgasm.
It also takes a particular state of arousal for a woman to respond to G spot stimulation and get to orgasm.
It isn't just a matter of being well lubricated, although this is part of the story. It's more about how a woman's emotional responses to her sexual partner can help drive her bodily sexual responses.
But most of all it appears to mean a woman opening up psychologically and emotionally to her lover; opening her heart to him and perhaps even exposing the depths of her feminine vulnerability to him.
It's my experience that vaginal lubrication follows sexual desire and arousal, but the swelling of the G spot from its usual, slightly ribbed feeling into a tumescent, smooth, engorged area of tissue only takes place when a woman is freely feeling very loving towards her partner and she feels his love in return. (Or is it a matter of respect or trust rather than love?)
When she's achieved this state of arousal, a man with a finger on her G spot can produce very different sensations to those from a finger on her clitoris alone.
It's much more of a whole body sensation, which won't surprise anybody who's studied Tantric sex, where the G spot is the gateway to allowing sexual energy to flow all round the body.
And he will find he knows how to give his woman an orgasm easily.
Discovering the G spot, responding to it, and finding the effects that it has a woman's emotional state, her sexual energy, and her overall sense of well-being, is part of the journey of developing sexuality that every woman must take during her life: it's just that some women don't get past the starting gate.
However, if you trawl the further reaches of the Internet, particularly if you have an interest in female ejaculation video, you'll come across many video clips which suggest that the level of stimulation required to take a woman into an ecstatic orgasmic state through stimulating the G spot inside her vagina alone is extremely high.
And while there's little doubt from watching these video clips that the women are receiving massive stimulation, but the level of pleasure they get is more questionable....
This stimulation, usually delivered with a finger or two is so vigorous both in terms of pressure and speed that it looks almost unpleasant.
Science Comes To The Rescue - Give Us All Orgasms!
However, there has been some research done on the subject of vaginal orgasm which I'm going to report here. It was conducted by Stuart Brody and Petr Weiss and reported in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Updated July 23, 2018